This programme has been lovingly designed to support parents who are feeling overwhelmed and exhausted, but are ready and motivated to bring about deep, long-term change within themselves, their relationship with their children and in their family lives. It is intended to support people who are eager to devote the time, energy and effort to bringing this about.

This programme is likely to be a good fit for you if:

• You are longing for a loving and easy connection with your children, but you are not sure about the best way to bring this into reality.

• ​​You are experiencing challenges in your family life, you are ready to change, but you are unsure what is the first step. 

• You are curious and eager to learn about your child, yourself, and the science and art of connection.

• You have been actively seeking out support for some time now (through books, youtube, courses, therapy etc) but are confused about how to piece it all together to bring about meaningful change.

• You feel uncertain or confused about different parenting approaches you see around you, with people in your life giving you contradictory advice. You want to find a way that works well for you and your children.

• You are attracted to the principles of gentle-parenting approaches (e.g. peaceful parenting, simple parenting, conscious parenting, mindful parenting, attachment parenting or NVC parenting) but you want some support to apply and integrate the principles effectively into your daily life with your children.

• You want to be confident in your parenting, even in moments of conflict or when there is challenging behaviour.

• You find yourself using parenting strategies that don’t align with your values or your vision of what you want your life with your children to be like (e.g. shouting, hitting, guilt and shame tactics, rewards and punishments, overusing screens, bribes etc) but you are struggling to find other ways that work.

• In quiet moments, your mind may wander to anxiety about your children and what might become of them (e.g. If they are like this now, will they become delinquents?? Will they ever be able to cope in the real world?) or may become lost in guilt or shame (Why did I shout again? What is wrong with me?!)

If you recognise yourself in any of these statements, this course is likely to be a good fit for your goals and  aspirations.

Making a significant and lasting change in your family life takes time, practice, energy and commitment. In this programme, we have worked to make each bit as digestible, fun and simple as possible.

We recommend doing this programme over 8 months, but it is possible to do it faster if you are motivated and set aside the time to work through. It is not a passive "consumption" course. Real change involves your participation and active engagement.

Self-guided pathway - we recommend dedicating roughly 2 hours per week (think one morning or evening, in a cosy, quiet place with a journal, your phone or laptop and a cup of coffee). This would include:

• Reading through the regular email from us.

• Printing out or saving the worksheets and resources.

• Watching a few video lessons, pausing periodically to do the exercises onto the prepared worksheets.

• Setting aside a small daily window (5-10 mins) for journaling and self-reflection (first thing in the morning or right before bed).

• Logging into the Community online area to share celebrations, intentions, or questions/challenges whenever you like.

Group/community options - similar to above, but replacing individual lessons with:

• Coming together once per week or fortnight (depending on your agreed rhythm) for a couple of hours to watch some videos together and discussing and working through the guided exercises.

• Meeting up weekly or fortnightly (phone or video chat) with an empathy buddy from within your group to check in and work through an exercise together.

Accompanied (individual coaching) option - to self paced, add:

• A monthly individual coaching call with Sally, in which we will work through and challenges you are having, explore any roadblock to progress and answer any questions or challenges you are having.

Maybe...and maybe not.

It is our experience that for most parents, what you will learn in this programme will save you so much time and energy moving forward! The time and energy we loose in conflict, challenging behaviour, power struggles is enormous. This is an initial investment of time to bring huge rewards of freed up time and life energy down the track. 

However, it is also the case that for some people, this initial investment of time and energy is too much for them.

Before you sign up, we invite you to pause and check.

We would love it if every parent had an opportunity to learn about connection and gain some skills to care more deeply for themselves and their children. We imagine the world would be a more peaceful and kinder place!

However, re-establishing connection with your child and yourself takes time, energy and commitment. It is our sincere wish that only those who have the capacity to engage in this programme sign up; we would love to support you to focus your precious life energy only on endeavours that will support and nurture you and your family.

This programme requires a willingness to self reflect, be open to new ideas and be open to try new behaviours and patterns.

This programme is NOT likely to be a good fit for you if:​

• You love the idea of this, but are just too busy to commit to around 3-4 hours each week. We believe that staying within our capacity is a radical and world-changing choice, and it is very important to us that any work we do together is entirely within your capacity. We want to support people to learn to trust their instincts about this. If this phase of life feels too full for you, and you sense this is not a realistic commitment, this programme is unlikely to work well for you and may add more pressure. Your reluctance to take on any more makes a lot of sense, and we really honour and appreciate your choice! 

• You have big changes or commitments in the next few months (e.g. moving house, changing jobs etc). If you think these changes will make it hard to find space and time to commit to this programme, perhaps this is not the right time for you. We hope you honour and take seriously any concerns you have about this, and choose to stay within your capacity. 

• You are experiencing significant life trauma or personal pain right now.In this case, you are likely to need more one-to-one support than the community format can offer, and our guided mentoring option might be a more supportive way for you to go through this programme. Please contact us if you would like to discuss our one-on-one support options.

• You desperately want fast results. Sometimes we can feel really desperate for instant changes as parents: maybe the school has told you that unless your child starts behaving differently they will take punitive action, maybe you are estranged from your child and you are desperate to have them back right now, or maybe your partner has given you a frightening ultimatum about your child’s behaviour or your approach to parenting.

  We really get the sense of urgency and the pain and frustration you are experiencing right now. And we also want to be transparent that it is our expectation that recreating this precious connection with ourselves and our children will not happen overnight. Deep and lasting change takes time, perseverance and practice; and ultimately a lifelong commitment beyond our time together to prioritise peace, presence and connection. There are many ways to force compliance with your child in the short term, but in our experience these short term methods are very costly to our relationships in the long run. 

The invitation in this programme is to slow down in order that we can eventually speed up…together. If you do not have the time, space or willingness in your life at this point to slowly, patiently rebuild this connection, our guess is that this course will be challenging and frustrating for you.

If, after reading this, you are still unsure whether this programme is right for you in this particular season of your life, you are very welcome to contact us for a chat. We are very open to helping you to discern whether it is likely to be the best step for you right now. If so, we are so excited for you to join us!

We welcome a limited number of people into the programme at any given time, because we want to make sure we are able to care for and nurture each person to make the changes they want to make in their lives.

We have a (very simple!) application process we ask you to complete before entering the programme, involving a form to complete to let us know a bit about your situation and why you are drawn to the course. This process allows us to decide (together) whether this programme will be a good fit for you and will best meet your needs at this moment in time. 

We want to make sure:

• We are going to be able to give you the level of support you need (for some people, individual coaching, mediation or even support from other trainers we know might be a better fit).

• You are going to be able to give the time and energy to this programme (see “What is the time commitment” and “Am I too busy for this?”)

• You are motivated and want to do the course. We can offer support, resources, community, care and expertise, but ultimately the changes in your family life will come from you. It is important to us that we prioritise our care and energy to people who are really wanting to make change.

This application process is a chance for you and us to check whether this is likely to be a good fit. No one is turned away, but we might check in with you if we think that the programme might not be a good fit for you right now or if we think that there are other options that might better suit your needs. 

We offer this programme in three main formats because we recognise that people have very different learning styles, situations and needs.

1. If you enjoy learning in your own time, with the reassurance of occasional check ins and email support, choose the self-paced version. This option gives you the most freedom to set your own pace and learn in the way that works for you. You are welcome to email us with your questions, and you have two coffee chats with Sally (half-hour check ins) that you can book during your time.

2. If you prefer in-person connection, or would love to connect with other parents as you learn together, choose the group option. If you have your own local group of friends or are keen to organise a group in your local community, you can register together and start straight away. We also periodically run online cohorts, so you can add your name to our list for this.

3. If you want more intensive support, guidance and mentoring as you work through this programme, choose the accompanied pathway. Sally can be your personal guide to support you each step of the way. This option is best if you struggle to stay motivated working alone and would like someone to help you stay on track, or if you would like support to work through parenting guilt, grief, frustration or attachment challenges, or particular challenges with your child.

We ask that you contribute as much as you’re able, without overstretching or feeling resentful. A few things worth weighing:

• Your financial means

• The value you anticipate getting from the programme

• What you consider a genuine gesture of your commitment

• Your desire to support our continued work

We have recommended ranges for each pathway which reflect We trust you to land on an amount that considers our needs while also honouring your financial situation.

We really appreciate you naming this. It is common for people experience this, and we are sad knowing this holds some people back from joining.

We want to reassure you: it’s genuinely meaningful to us to offer this work to anyone who thinks they may benefit from it. That really matters to us. Because of this, we’re motivated to continually find other ways to run our programmes sustainably.

We’d invite you to step into courage and embrace this challenge, to see your participation in our programme as part of what a gift economy actually looks like in practice. By joining, even at a small contribution, you’re allowing this work to impact your family and relationships, which is exactly makes our work meaningful.